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What does it mean when a British person says "I can't be asked"?

Last Updated: 18.06.2025 14:44

What does it mean when a British person says "I can't be asked"?

There are very few circumstances in which somebody would say “I can’t be asked”. Probably you misheard “I can’t be arsed”, which means you can’t be bothered to do something.

It may be related to the expression “Get your arse in gear”, which literally means “Start walking” (that is, set your buttocks in motion) but metaphorically means “Begin taking action”. If you “can’t be arsed” you’re refusing to take action.

On the other hand we also say “I can’t be buggered” to mean “I can’t be bothered”, which seems to have no logic to it other than that it’s an arse-related word that sound bit like “bothered”. With the added complication that although the slang meaning of “bugger” is “have anal intercourse”, its *literal* meaning is “a Bulgarian”.

Should I have left it alone and kept quiet? I came out as gay to my adult kids last week. Age 61 married 15 years, divorced for 20. I feel so guilty for ruining their lives by living a lie.